Entering puberty, along with physical development, your child will have obvious psychological changes. At this stage, the development of ego in children will make children more inclined to ask parents to respect their personal preferences and decisions. In addition, it can be said that this is a stage of transferring responsibility from parents to children. Parents will need to pay less attention to the little things in their children's lives, teach them independence and responsibility skills, and gradually give them the power to make decisions in some life issues. This is also a rather sensitive period and children will easily develop in a negative direction if they are not respected and corrected properly.
What is proper respect?
Many families misinterpret respect, leading to negative problems in the parent-child relationship. Respect is not despite agreeing to even very unreasonable requests from children, nor does it mean that children are "self-reliant" in important decisions about careers, hobbies and lifestyle...
So what is proper respect? Respect is the fact that parents behave properly, do not infringe on the privacy of their children, have an attitude of caring about their children's thoughts, feelings and health, thereby being able to support their children in taking care of their children. make the most appropriate decisions. When children receive respect from their parents, they will be more aware of their actions and lives to perfect their personality and make great strides in their personal development.
How to properly respect children?
1. Refrain from expressing your ego
Respecting children properly is not difficult but requires parents to be patient and keep their ego at the lowest level. There is nothing worse than two big egos with two opposing opinions. Many parents think that “I gave birth to a child, the child has to do whatever he wants. Wrong is forbidden, why explain?" This is very unscientific. Even though you know you want the best for your child, improper attention will backfire, the parent-child relationship is suddenly strained and broken.
Not to mention, the psychology of teenagers is very unstable and the ego that wants to show is too big. This makes it easy for children to resist all that is against them just to assert themselves. This can lead to many consequences for the physical and mental health as well as the direction of the child's future. Therefore, try to stay calm and learn to control your ego when talking to your child to avoid unwanted consequences.
2. Respect but still need discipline
Set up discipline and rules of conduct in the family so that your child does not violate basic ordinances. However, strictness is different from dictatorship. When needed, you should still listen to your child's point of view and consider and advise him fairly. Don't let your child think that your parents are too old and different from generation to understand you, so your child can become self-contained and decide on his own life without sharing it with his family. .
3. Don't compare your children
During puberty, children will be very sensitive to being compared to someone or to the image of their parents in the past. Parents should pay attention to avoid doing this hurt. In comparison, parents have invisible actions that force their children to reach the model you want. This makes children withdrawn, closed and more distant from their parents. Each person has their own strengths, so please respect and develop your differences together to become a strength to assert yourself.
4. Respect your child's personal space
During puberty, children will develop a greater sense of their own private lives and may be less likely to hang out with their parents as they did when they were younger or share their feelings and thoughts with family members. family. Instead of trying to touch that private world, parents should respect their children by letting them have their own private corners. A few small actions such as knocking on the door when entering your child's room, asking permission to use his things, not blaming him when he spends more time with friends than family... can help him feel that he is being respected. like an adult.
Learning to respect children during puberty is an exciting yet challenging task for parents. Hope these tips will help you to accompany your child in the process of growing up effectively. Good luck!